Saturday, June 17, 2017

How Do You Really Know If You're Falling in Love?

Image result for am i in loveThere are no questions about if we find ourselves in the situation when we have to ask ourselves if we are in love with someone or its just infactuation. a feeling that springs up maybe because she is damn georgeous at first sight. That of course is attractive, especially if you happen to have seen her walk down the mall swinging her hair (even though artificial) and walking as confident as the first lady. That is definitely attractive.

Well if you are about to ask if I hold a believe in love at first sight, I wouldnt be giving you a concreate answer to that now. yeah, not just now.

Ok.... fast track

few weeks into chatting and calling that girl behind the smiles and the jellybeans in your tummy, and you begin to get curious and ask if really you are in love or it is just a normal felling...

iono, how would I. LOL!!!

Are you falling in love? How can you tell?

However, from recent research and studyies which is focused on heterosexual relationships, this questions might prove helpful you sort it out:

Are you suddenly doing new things?

Related imageWhen people fall in love, they often go all out beyond their normal range of activities and try those that their new partners favours, iit is just normal. You might find yourself trying new foods, watching new shows, or attempting new activities or trying to get along with some other thing you are not previously accustomed to. People who fall in love tend to report growth in the content and diversity of their own self-concepts (Aron, Paris, & Aron, 1995).

Have you been especially stressed lately?

As welcoming as falling in love might be, evidence links the experience with higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol (Marazziti & Canale, 2004). So yeah, should in case you have noticed that you’re anxious, tense, or just plain jittery, it might be a normal response to the strain of repeated social encounters with someone whose impression matters deeply to you. LOVE!!!

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Are you highly motivated to be with this person?

Transitioning from a casual relationship to falling in love may have a chemical underpinning. Evidence has shown that dopamine-rich areas of the brain are involved in the beginning stages of love (Fisher, Aron, & Brown, 2005); these areas are considered part of the brain’s “reward system” and serve as highly motivational. Once couples are “in love” for a while, the intensity of these emotions tends to decline and different areas of the brain, potentially more closely linked to attachment, become more active.

Does the person you’re falling for return your feelings?

If you’re a woman and you feel like you’re falling in love,you definitely will be interested in getting to know if that sepcial person is as much in love with you, or maybe there are chances that he likes you (Sanz Cruces et al., 2015).

Image result for am i in loveMaybe women are more apt to hold back their emotions until they believe they are returned, or maybe women are more successful at seducing partners. In either case, women who think they’re falling in love tend to have their feelings returned more often than men, making them more likely to find their feelings turn into relationships.

How intense are your emotions?

People high in attachment anxiety (i.e., they question their own self-worth in relationships) tend to experience a high degree of passion when romance is budding (Sanz Cruces et al., 2015). If that's not you, a lack of intense feeling isn’t necessarily a sign that Cupid hasn’t struck—not everyone experiences falling in love the same way. In fact, those who have avoidant attachment orientations tend to fall in love with much less intensity.

Do you fall in love frequently?

If falling in love is a feeling you feel frequently, you'll have less chance of missing the real thing—but more chance of heartache from mistaking attraction for something more. New evidence suggests that men fall in love more frequently than women (Sanz Cruces, Hawrylak, & Delegido, 2015). Researchers can explain this tendency from an evolutionary perspective, linking love to sex: Whereas women are likely to be more stringent in their partner criteria before declaring love, because their potential investment in an offspring is greater (e.g., pregnancy, childbirth), such emotions for men might promote reproduction and could therefore be considered evolutionarily advantageous.

Are you tempted to say, “I love you”?
A sure sign of romantic interest, some people are more hesitant to utter these three words than others. Although people might imagine that women are the first to utter it, though, research on heterosexual couples again indicates that it's men who are more apt to say “I love you” first (Harrison & Shortall, 2011). They also tend to fall in love faster.

Are you investing more in this person?
One hallmark of successful couples is investment—all the time, energy, emotions, etc. that people put into their relationships (Rusbult, 1980). People falling in love are likely increasing their investment in a person, linking their lives together in a way that might promote commitment and stability.

Falling in love is a uniquely intense period of time for anyone. But we need to sort out a lot of other questions during a falling-in-love phase: Beyond clear attraction, is this person someone who will support you, respect you, understand you, and be compassionate with you? And does this person share your values and priorities?

If you're lucky, putting in the time and effort during this initial period will pay off, and your mutual attraction can transition into a more stable (and less stressful) long-term relationship.



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